This being said-I am Jewish. I made them out of clay.... Look, I don't know - I'm agnostic too.But... seems to me that a thorough investigation into Judaism might be a good thing.AT LEAST figure out what those motions mean when converting.And also be sure to figure out if they'll be family pressure to raise your kids in a stricter adherence to the Religion.Jewish teachings are amongst the oldest and in fact are very well endowed with knowledge and writings, but of course you know that much already.So, if you try it and like it - go ahead.If the whole thing makes you feel like Rosemary - maybe it just isn't right after all. And how sincere is the family's own desire to keep the bloodline pure if their own notion of faith is so shallow? There is no compulsion in Islam. {Fred Jausenge} It is good to follow your parents’ advice but not when it is based on false information. And I am totally a shikzah Sara haha. Is that a law or something? Because of intermarriage, travel, communication, and a more enlightened if murderous era for humanity overall, the walls are coming down everywhere between races, religions, nations, and cultures. Islam itself is … I know women who did this, but each situation has its own unique dynamics, so you can't compare to them. It is like a good form of Karate I think, or learning a musical instrument. Part of HuffPost Religion. She teaches Hebrew School, is going for her masters in Jewish studies and keeps a kosher home and follows all of the "rules". I assure you sister I will answer your question with the sincerest of intentions. Yes I made it clear. (Facial feminization surgery can help with this.) again, she was reform...when i asked why... roomie told me that in order for the children to be considered jewish that the mother's ovum was what determined what the child would be born...and NOT the father's sperm. why not say "He's Jewish and I'm not and wouldn't you know it, we love each other?" It is very different from my upbringing, but many of the values are the same.At the moment, I can say I wouldn't mind celebrating the culture and the values. I had a really serious boyfriend for whom I considered converting to Judaism. Sadly, one problem that my friend had for a long time was that once people found out she wasn't born Jewish, they always viewed her as "the convert". But in general, I notice that even the non religious usually believe in a higher being, anyway. Likewise, know that no shortage of anti-Islam critics exist to make you second-guess and doubt your decision. Additionally some religions (mostly Asian or New Age'y one's) can be practised without a belief in or worship of God or Gods (atheism.about.com/od/ath…) and (atheism.about.com/od/ath…).Though I am Theistic and believe there is or at least was a God at some point, and fairly conservative - I also don't believe that you should lie or go against your own personal beliefs or disbeliefs as these would tend to hinder an honest, open, longterm relationship. I had a few Jewish roommates before. Whoopsie.youtube.com/watch?v=MYzG…. Day by day I hated not being able to learn about Islam at home. 1 minute ago Donna K. says: To Hubert: Really? Every Muslim knows several, if not dozens, who chose to convert to Islam as a young adult or even later in life. Reform Judaism makes it ok to have inter-faith marriages, but that doesn't change the tradition of Jewish law, which says it's all down to the mother. Yes, Islam is about the Unity of God and the unity of humanity. "However, in order for our kids to be Jewish I must be Jewish."Wrong. To Sara and Kathryn:Hahahaha! Remember, it really comes down to how comfortable you are with it.-----The Dude: Man, you're f*ing Polish Catholic...Walter Sobchak: What the f* are you talking about? Seems disingenuous to me. And there is no requirement for you to share with him that you don't believe any of it. He will be happy for you to convert! If he is a bit liberal then you may continue. This conversation is monumentally stupid.And if someone calls you Getty Lee it might not be a compliment. One of the meanings of Islam is sincerity. Your decision to convert/revert to Islam should be based on knowledge, certainty, acceptance, submission, truthfulness, and sincerity. I'm agnostic as well, and would never compromise my beliefs for anyone, and i would expect that someone who truly loved me would understand, and respect my decision.We fall in love for who people are, not what we hope they'll become.... We make latkes during Hanukkah and lechon (roasted pork) for Christmas.-----------------------------------Roasted pork?? Of course, there is the possibility that I may end up finding Judaism to be very compelling, but the chances are pretty low. No, I disagree. Unfortunately, over 100 different sects of Islam exist today. It has a lot of beautiful elements that can enrich a family and their traditions. It's all kinds of culture fu*ks right there. To know Prophet Muhammad is to know Islam. As for your situation? How sincere is that faith if it was only adopted to please another, or to affect a change in the heart of another? Still, I don't see why you have to "convert" to a religion and pretend to believe stuff you find implausible if it's the cultural aspect that is important to both you and your husband-to-be. I don't go to services and I only do Shabbat here and there. There are few Tevyas left in the world (Tevya is the main character), and it shows how Tevya comes to accept that the old ways change. I am not an atheist. If you like it, cool. The Qur'an 67:4 declares, "Who has created seven heavens in harmony. Be active, be sincere, be consistent, even incessant in your prayers to God. Remember, you get to live your life!! you're asian ...... he's jewish ......your kids are going to be successful doctors ! You don't have to convert to Judaism to make great latkas any more than you need to convert to Buddhism to eat in a Chinese restaurant. Thanks for everyone's comments! racial purity???? I'm a muslim girl from south make east asia. I had a really serious boyfriend for whom I considered converting to Judaism. The Reconstructionist movement, allowing girls to be bat mitzvah'd, allowing women to be rabbis and ordaining women as rabbis are just a few of the changes that have occurred in Judaism in the last hundred years. Answer:Why should one convert to Islam? Repetition, practice, study, discipline can lead to self-discovery and realizing some personal truths. :P Just Hanukkah. It's not about you and him, but the environment in which you will seek to maintain your relationship. He wants me to convert in to Islam. When a person is convinced that Islam is the true religion of God they should not delay their conversion. Adam's call caught me off guard. It's odd that I am considered Jewish, but my cousin whose father is Jewish, is not. You have conveyed that marriage is a long ways away and that should give you plenty of time to figure out what you want. You're already on a journey to learn more about God. As a practicing Muslim who's made the conscious choice to follow Islam, I figured I'd been down a road Adam was looking to begin traveling. But I still wanted to become a Muslim. Yes Hubert there are tons of interfaith marriages between a Jew and a non Jew......Please learn about Jewish law before making statements. So far we've outlasted both our parent's marriages, as well as all of our sibling's marriages, and are still very much in love. Picture them as two wheels on a cart. She is Jewish because I am Jewish. One day, as he joined my school friends during a “study party” while he was visiting me at school, I looked over at his iPad to see what he was doing in order to keep himself occupied. No incongruity canst thou see in the creation of the Gracious God. Every Muslim has their duty towards God and their duty towards humanity. Judaism has thrived under poverty and oppression for millennia - as a culture it does not hold together well in conditions of wealth or freedom. That is definitely something I will look into because I have been under the impression that it is a must for the children to really be considered Jewish. So he is NOT forcing me to discard my own beliefs for a marriage. How sincere is that faith if it was only adopted to please another, or to affect a change in the heart of another? A few months back Adam called me in a rage. In Islam the man is allowed to marry outside his religion. If you want images of Jews in their native habitat, you must rent Fiddler on the Roof, which beyond just entertainment and some great Broadway show tunes deals with all these issues in a pretty deep way. Islam has certain regulations about several aspects of our … 8. Have I thoroughly researched other faiths? Personally, I'm probably gonna end up marrying a non Jew and then let my kids decide once they are older. No it is not. Anyway, what I should have added is that it really depends on how deep you want to get into it. I was able to find a jewish officiant to marry us, and we had a jewish wedding....some highlights included breaking the glass, and hava negila with us being carried on chairs. I asked him today if he loved his religion more than me, and he said he did. I do that every day going to work, so why not.Personally, I'd be offended if someone not of my faith pretended to be just to get benefits. People have asked if it’s weird when we go out, and no, not it’s not. I believe the religion is matrilineal so you would have to convert if you wanted your children to be Jewish. my boy friend is a Sikh. We would raise them to know both sides. YOU CAN CHOOSE FROM PHANTOM FEARS AND KINDNESS THAT CAN KILL. If the atheists and agnostics don't put their foot down against the hypocrisy of religion, we are just perpetuating the bullshit of all the rules and regulations of organized religion. I am very open to the possibilities and will explore this one thoroughly.Thanks everyone! Everyone has given me a really good platform to bounce off of. You should not convert yourself just for your boyfriend. It might have been easier if I had, but it worked out well. you can be any color or come from any country and be jewish. I'm Kohein). Ultimately, though, God is your final witness. It's okay, breathe, and don't get frustrated. In what language are sermons delivered? I'm in the same situation as you are in. I am marrying a non-Jew in 16 days and married a non-Jew the first time. “Islam for Dummies” was open on his screen. Reform Judaism recognizes kids as Jewish if either mom or dad is Jewish. I happen to carry the genes for TaySachs and Canavan (deadly birth defects found more commonly in Jewish populations) and my gentile husband doesn't. We aren't exactly in a rush. I might have turned into a deliquent if they had left me there. I wanted to learn how to perform Salah. If not, then it's not for you. The Declaration of Faith (Shahada) To convert to Islam and become a Muslim, all you need to do is say the below testimony with conviction and understanding its meaning: "Ash Shadoo an La ilaha illa Allah, Wa Ash Shadoo ana Muhammadan rasoolu Allah." Tsada K. says:Personally, I think that it is hypocritical, not so much of the person converting, but of the family who asks that person to do so in the form of an ultimatum. Without getting into tons of detail, the best thing I can say is this is YOUR life. Will you be prepared to observe veil (hijab)? I find it all to be very enjoyable and in line with me. And second, Islam has created a system to truly unite humanity as it teaches its adherents to accept all these prophets of God. So if you find yourself on a journey similar to Adam's, then here are nine questions you should ask yourself before accepting Islam. So we want to take our time with getting to know everybody on both sides of our family. 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